Today we as we look at
the next item of the six things Jesus calls us to as disciples we come to a
fascinating scripture and one that some really just don’t quite understand. The
fourth hallmark of discipleship is that a disciple forsakes his family. On the
surface this just doesn’t seem right to us and one might even be tempted to
suggest this contradicts scripture. 1 Timothy 5:8 instructs us about
family saying, “But if
anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his
household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” Obviously
taking care of our family is important and they should be our first priority in
taking care of and in sharing the Gospel.
This is what Jesus says about His disciples in Matthew 10:34-37, “Do not think that I
have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a
sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against
her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person's enemies
will be those of his own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me
is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not
worthy of me.” Let us break this down and find out what this means.
First of Jesus says he did not come to “bring peace to the
earth.” Jesus is not contradicting the idea that the Gospel is a gospel of
peace, it is for those who have decided to accept His it. Romans 5:1 tells us, “Therefore, since
we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus
Christ.” Thanks be to God, through Christ our sin can no longer keep us at war
with God’s holiness. The blood of Christ has covered our sin once and for all
time when Jesus shed it for us at Calvary. And along with this good news is the
news that we have been set free from sin, worry, anger, and anything else that
creates havoc within us through the power of the Holy Spirit.
But for those who refuse God’s offer of the Gospel, their
sin puts them at war with God, for God is a Holy God and by nature is directly opposed
to sin. What Jesus is saying here in Matthew
10:35-36, “For I have come to set a man against his father, and a
daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And
a person's enemies will be those of his own household” is that a disciple of Christ cannot help but
be in conflict with those who reject His truth. Jesus is referring here to a
quote from Micah 7:6, “for the
son treats the father with contempt, the daughter rises up against her mother,
the daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; a man's enemies are the men of
his own house.”
God does not like compromise and that is clear when we read
the history of Israel in the OT. Jesus confirmed this in His time on earth by
saying things such as "No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back
is fit for the kingdom of God." from Luke 9:62. What Jesus expects from us is a total commitment. This is modeled
for us in His choosing of the original disciples who left everything behind to
come follow Him. By using our families as an example Jesus is demonstrating how
serious He expects our commitment to be.
So the bottom line here is that
nothing should come between us and Jesus. If our friends are unbelievers we
must forsake them to do what Jesus asks. If our jobs require us to deny Christ
we will be required to leave and seek other employment. Though we are not
commanded to divorce an unbelieving spouse, we cannot allow our spouse to draw
us away from God. 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 Paul explains, “To the rest I say (I, not the
Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to
live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an
unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For
the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving
wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be
unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbelieving partner separates,
let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has
called you to peace. Wife, how do you know whether you will save your husband?
Husband, how do you know whether you will save your wife?” At all times our
efforts and our prayers must be directed toward leading those who are opposed to
us and Jesus to a saving knowledge of Him.
The world is our enemy for it is an enemy of Christ. But never
forget what Jesus commands us to do to our enemies in Matthew 5:44-45 “…love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute
you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven.”
Paul expands on this in Romans 12:18-21
saying, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with
all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it
is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord." To the
contrary, "if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him
something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his
head." Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
So to sum this up we must love everyone even when we are
diametrically opposed to their way of life. But loving someone does not mean we
agree nor does it mean we act as they do. A true disciple of Christ walks in
the Spirit and seeks to be like Jesus. The world and even our unbelieving family
members will try and keep us from following Christ’s commands thus they become
our enemy. Romans 12:2 must become our
way of life even when its causes division in our homes. “And do not be conformed
to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may
prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”
This will not be easy and actually unless we walk in the
power of the Holy Spirit it is too much. So keep your eyes on Jesus, stay in
His Word daily, and pray without ceasing. God bless all of you.